2006-06-13 – Journaling – How do I want to be liked?
Hey there me, how are you?
I’m at lunch. It’s nice because I decided to stay on campus and do a little journaling. So now I’m listening to John Maxwell’s Influencer 2 training, and drinking a lovely Cherry XS.
On my way over here, I thought that it’d be nice to do another Letter to Helen, like I did last night. It was a nice way to get my feelings out, and though I’m not sure that she’ll ever read them, it’s neat to see me being honest with myself and my own struggles.
Sunday night, I had the chance to go over to Bill & Sharon’s house for dinner and a nice chat. It was good food (straight from Safeway) and good company (though a little crazy at times (duh, it’s the Wildes!)).
During our post-dinner chat, Sharon was the first to quiz me on “my new girlfriend” as she put it. They were sure to point out that she’d slept over twice so far, and asked me about why I liked her. It is always an interesting question to answer. I guess I’m not sure what a “good” answer is… Why do people like other people?
It seems so wrong to say, “because they’re hot” or “because they’re really nice”, but what is a good answer?
Why do I want someone to like me?
“He is a man of vision and action. He is aware of the purpose of his life and he intentionally makes choices to achieve his greatest potential.”
“He is a man of deep integrity. I know that he will do right, no matter the personal cost.”
“I know that he will provide for our family spiritually, emotionally, and financially. I firmly believe that he has my best interest in mind, and is always seeking to improve himself to help improve our relationship.”
“He sees the best in every person he meets. He gently helps to guide without regard to his own gain.”
“He is a picture of what is described in the book Four Pillars of a Man’s Heart . He is a man of vision and character… a King. He is a man of strength and power… a Warrior. He is a man of faith and wisdom… a Mentor. He is a man of heart and love… a Friend.”
“He recognizes and speaks my love language. I know, from his actions, that he loves me more deeply than anything and that he is committed to me forever.”
“He is a man who maintains his own hedges and keeps them healthy and thick. He makes choices to protect himself from temptations as to never find himself in need of making a choice the moment before falling into sin.”
“He is a dangerous man. He challenges the status quo, and willingly attacks life and it’s challenges. He will not back down in the face of adversity. It steels his resolve and committment.”
Well, that’s a pretty good list. I think I’ll get in touch with Bill and Sharon to find out what their answers are. Okay, so it’s time to head back to work…