From the 4-hour work week book, page 46.
Define your nightmare, the absolute worst that could happen if you did what you are considering. What doubt fears, and “what-ifs” pop up as you consider the big changes you can – or need – to make? Envision them in painstaking detail. Would it be the end of your life? What would be the permanent impact, if any, on a scale of 1-10? Are these things really permanent? How likely do you think it is that they would actually happen?
The worst that could happen is that I lose all of the important relationships in my life. First and foremost, it would be Heather and Bill. Financially, I’d be drained, if not in debt, and I would have no means to reproduce success. Emotionally? My self image and self esteem would be demolished. I would be without hope. How likely? Not very. Permanent? Not likely. Spiritually I would be separated and attacked.
What steps could you take to repair the damage or get things back on the upswing even if temporarily? Chances are, it’s easier than you imagine. How could you get things back under control?
More than likely it’s simply a matter of digging in deeply and focusing intensely on personal development and looking for ways to love others and serve them, without compensation.
What are the outcomes or benefits, both temporary and permanent, of more probable scenarios? Now that you’ve defined the nightmare, what are the more probable or definite positive outcomes, whether internal (confidence, self-esteem, etc.) or external? What would the impact of these more-likley outcomes be on a scale of 1-10? How likely is it that you could produce at least a moderately good outcome? Have less intelligent people done this before and pulled it off?
It’s all conjecture, of course, but I really don’t foresee significant problems with the development of myself and my company. There really is nothing better suited to compose a well under girded company while being actively involved in other things. It seems that the challenge is mostly involved with balancing or prioritizing the business plan that can better achieve the results of relational and financial success.
If you were fired from your job today, what would you do to get things under financial control? Imagine this scenario and run through questions 1-3 above. If you quit your job to test other options, how could you later get back on the same career track if you absolutely had to?
If I was fired, I would be able to live for several months without having to make an income. It would require a constricted lifestyle, mostly with regards to extraneous expenses. Food would no longer be used for feeding but fueling, and being intensely focused on the improvement of our situation.
What are you putting off out of fear? Usually, what we most fear doing is what we most need to do. That phone call, that conversation, whatever the action might be – it is fear of the unknown outcomes that prevents us from doing what we need to do. Define the worst case, accept it, and do it. I’ll repeat something that you might consider tattooing on your forehead: What we fear doing most is usually what we most need to do. As I have heard said, a person’s success in life can usually be measured by the number of uncomfortable conversations he or she is willing to have. Resolve to do one thing every day that you fear. I got into this habit by attempting to contact celebrities and famous businesspeople for advice.
Everything great is being put off out of fear of growth and changing. I want to be comfortable with people, willing to share with them a new concept beyond their current framework, that exposes me to to the real but intangible risk of being critiqued for my non-standard efforts. People could call me soapy, they could ask me questions I don’t know the answer to, or they can give me a look of disdain or disapproval. I want to know that I am worthy, and in pursuit of a model that helps me to prove it, it stands to reason that folks might not see my energies as a worthy effort because of their own expectations that a job is the appropriate path.
What is it costing you – financially, emotionally, and physically – to postpone action? Don’t only evaluate the potential downside of action. It is equally important to measure the atrocious cost of inaction. If you don’t pursue those things that excite you, where will you be in one year, five years, and ten years? How will you feel having allowed circumstance to impose itself upon you and having allowed ten more years of your finite life to pass doing what you know will not fulfill you? If you telescope out 10 years and know with 100% certainty that it is a path of disappointment and regret, and if we define risk as “the likelihood of an irreversible negative outcome,” inaction is the greatest risk of all.
Financially: millions. In comparison with where I’ll end up, and how much more quickly I could be there through action in the present, there are literally millions on the line. I’ve been working at UAS for 10 years, made somewhere near a quarter of a million dollars, and yet had I built my company at first crack, I would have a residualized six digit income. By this time, it’s highly likely that I’ve kissed away more than just a single million. Sobering thought.
Emotionally: I’ve dealt with 10 years of self-doubt and critique. Inaction will only bring another 10 years more. My self worth and self love will continue to fade at my lack of “success” towards my goal of freedom, and it will effect my health both emotional and physical.
Phyiscally: as mentioned above, a lesser self image, and less available time to be in shape, I will only be fatter, more lethargic, prone to other health issues, and distress from the strain on my relationships. Naturally, the slight edge will have continued to stretch me in one direction or another. Furthermore, regarding physicality, I will be doomed to continue in the market of renting, never owning, or in a debt laden situation where my belongings are either low-quality, or not even owned by myself (aka, severe debt.)
What are you waiting for? If you cannot answer this without resorting to the previously rejected concept of good timing, the answer is simple: You’re afraid, just like the rest of the world. Measure the cost of inaction, realize the unlikelihood and repairability of most missteps, and develop the most important habit of those who excel and enjoy doing so: action.
Yup, it’s pretty straightforward, and largely articulated above. I have fear, of people, of myself, of my light. I fear rejection, I fear unacceptance, and at times, looking myself in the mirror.
Action is really the only option; inaction simply provides more of the same, more of the pain, and more of mediocrity.